What makes someone great at their personal and job life? Having knowledge, smarts and vision, to be sure. But Do you know world’s most successful leaders are Emotionally Intelligent? They have the ability to identify and monitor emotions(their own and others).

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions. The ability to manage emotions effectively is a crucial part of Emotional Intelligence . Emotionally Intelligent people know that emotions can be powerful, but also temporary. If you are Emotional intelligent people you have to being able to say no when you need to. Honesty is a big part of Emotional Intelligence. Do you know why? Let me describe!

• Authentic

Honesty starts with being ourselves, authentic and true to what we are and what we believe in. Emotional intelligence in its most stripped down form means being an authentic person. Yet authenticity doesn’t come natural. They realise that a focus on technicalities, loopholes, and escape clauses may win them a trial in court, but it won’t win them others’ trust. They’re authentic. Those with high Emotional Intelligence realise authenticity doesn’t mean sharing everything about yourself, to everyone, all of the time.

• Honest thought

Taking an honest perspective about what you know and accepting what you don’t know allows opportunities for change and new experiences. This is a sign of Emotional Intelligent people. Most people think of thoughts as abstract “things” that come and go. But Emotionally Intelligent people recognise thoughts for what they are: chemical reactions within our brains, over which we exercise a measure of control. They know that thoughts precede actions, so they strive to focus their thoughts to work for their advantage.

• Honest Feedback

Emotional Intelligent people enjoy being alone with their thoughts. They savour the chance to think before speaking. Some people afraid to share their honest thoughts, they wait to hear how others feel, and then repeat back what they’ve heard. Emotionally Intelligent people can think for themselves. They often agree with others, but they aren’t afraid to speak up when they disagree. They say what they mean, and mean what they say. They know not everyone will appreciate them for that. But the important ones will.

• Real Criticism 

Our natural response when criticized is to get defensive, shift the blame, or fight back. That response doesn’t benefit anyone. On the other hand, Emotional intelligence allows you to see criticism for what it is: another person’s perspective. Usually, that perspective is rooted in truth, and can help you get better. But even when it’s not, it helps you see things through another person’s eyes and that makes you better too.

• Honest at commitments

Emotional Intelligent people endeavour to always say what they mean, mean what they say, and stick to their values and principles above all. They keep their commitments. Emotionally Intelligent people realise that keeping their word in things big and small establishes a strong reputation for reliability and trustworthiness.

• Genuine Interest

Emotional Intelligent people take a genuine interest in what people are saying. They consciously observe how they are feeling, begin practicing recognising and acknowledging how other people are feeling. The best way to uncover how someone else is feeling is to become an active listener. This means really, truly paying attention to what people are saying. This is really difficult for a lot of people especially those who’ve been taught that listening and deferring to others is a sign of weakness, and that speaking is better than listening. Emotional Intelligent people always take an honest look at their listening skills.

Are you a naturally good listener? Or do you tend to spend most of the time someone else is talking thinking about what you’re going to say next? A lot of people don’t even know they aren’t good listeners until they make a conscious effort.

Emotional intelligent people are also able to use that Emotional information in an effective way, like to become a better manager, a better teammate, or a better friend. They practice honesty. They do more than say what they sincerely believe; they also avoid half-truths and strive to present information in a way that won’t be misinterpreted.

Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living. It in one kind of peace. Peace is always Beautiful.