Relationships are as fragile as glass. One has to be very conscious while maintaining relationships be it with parents, children, colleagues, friends, and partners. Conflicts in relationships occur a lot of the times but the ones with the partners are the most vulnerable.

 

A conflict on a simple issue like deciding a place to eat or doing household chores can result in a big fight and even break a long-lasting relationship. Although conflicts and fights are natural for any healthy relationship, the social media-dependent youth of this fast-paced technological world does not try keeping a relationship whenever they face constant fights.

 

Instead of dealing with conflicts in their love life the youths run away from it calling it quits. This is the result of them believing that there are a lot of options because of social media. But they later regret it and feel “How I wish I had given that relationship a chance!”

 

Again, these youths always like the good moments when they start their relationship and think that this is how they will be for their whole life with happiness, love, and no fight or struggles. So, when they face hard times, they become scared and move away from each other. But our older generation was not like us, they always tried to understand each other.

 

Yet, the key to a healthy and happy relationship is conflicts which have to be dealt with by combining care, time, and understanding.

 

HERE ARE 8 WAYS TO DEAL WITH CONFLICTS IN A RELATIONSHIP:

 

1. BE DIRECT ABOUT WHAT BOTHERS YOU ABOUT YOUR PARTNER: 

We always think our partners will understand our feelings even without us telling them in person. This may feel real but it is not practical. Every human mind processes situations in its unique way. No other person can understand it by intuition or guessing. So be direct with your partner about what you dislike about them or which deeds of them disturbed you.

 

Relationships are not like treasure hunts. Don’t just give hints and wait for them to guess it. If so, this simple guessing game might be the reason you lose your most beloved person, obviously only after your Parents!

 

2. BE RESPECTFUL EVEN DURING ARGUMENTS:

Any relationship where the partners use curse words, loud tones, insulting statements about each other is sure to break. No healthy couple who love each other should be disrespectful to each other even during arguments.

 

So, try to be calm and composite during arguments and show care even after the argument. Like, ask them whether they have had their food or how is their health, etc.

 

3. TRY TO ANALYZE SITUATIONS FROM EACH OTHER’S PERSPECTIVE: 

After conflicts try to analyze the points your partner pointed and be in their shoe to get an idea of their perspective. For example- if your partner says they feel you don’t give them much time or if they show jealous behaviors then sit down and figure out which actions of yours triggered them. Then think about what you would have done if you were in their situation.

 

If you had shown the same reaction then don’t be mad at your partner rather talk to them and make them feel acknowledged and valued.

 

4. DO NOT STOP TALKING TO EACH OTHER: 

Most of the millennials stop talking with each other after a fight and even break up without any clear clarification and closure. But this is not an ideal way to handle any fight between a happy couple. This ‘Silent Treatment’ mainly occurs due to the ego of both partners.

 

Both of them think the other person did wrong so that person will talk first and, in the end, no one takes the first step. And the age of texting in social media has made this thing more apparent. If you love someone hold onto them.

 

5. COMMUNICATE THROUGH OPEN CONVERSATIONS:

Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Nothing is as important as communication with no fear of being judged in a relationship. Whatever there is in your mind should be shared with your better half even if it saddens them or makes them angry.

 

Trust each other and evaluate yourselves both as individuals and as a team. Conflicts can be avoided if both partners know each other in and out along with their behavior, their mood swings, and all.

 

6. AVOID CONFRONTING WITH WORDS THAT MAKE YOUR PARTNER DEFENSIVE:

It is said that words scar the minds of people more than actions. And human beings are the most triggered with words. During conflicts, one may lose their conscience and say harsh words which they might not mean but say in the heat of the moment. This should be avoided.

 

Instead of using statements like your controlling behavior is something I can’t take, it makes me question myself as to how I am staying with you! Use statements like, I am not comfortable when I am being advised on how to do everything in my life. This will make your partner less defensive and keep the tone of conflict moderate.

 

7. BALANCE EACH OTHER’S WANTS:

Every relationship is the 50/50 work of both the partners starting from sharing bills to helping each other in mending an argument. Likewise, to make a relationship work the needs and wants of both have to be given importance equally. Giving priority to only one person’s needs can make the other person irritated and frustrated. This will eventually result in conflicts.

 

So, ask each other what you want. Create plans alternatively where both your wishes are met. Like if your girlfriend wants to go to a fancy restaurant while you want to go to the movies, you can do both on alternate days. This will be healthy for both of you.

 

8. TRY TO SEE THE POSITIVES OF YOUR PARTNER AND THE CONFLICTS:

Do not forget that every good thing or relation has its perks and disadvantages. Every couple in this world fights; some reconcile, some fall apart. The right person always holds on despite all the negatives and this is the beauty of real love. Maybe your relationship will face continuous conflicts, you might feel helpless and think of ending it.

 

But wait before doing that and list down all the positives of your partner and the conflict. Think of the time your partner took care of your studies when you were sick or the time they tried everything to make your birthday a big deal. These small things matter the most.  So, take these into count and mend the conflicts in a mature manner.

 

Relationships once broken cannot be mended again and they won’t have the spark that was there before. So, youths of this generation give your relationship and partner time, affection, sacrifice, chance, adjustments, and love despite having fights and troubles. A beautiful bond when gone will only bring grief and a feeling of what if. Hence, Try instead of Regretting. 

 

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